1. Forget your friends and Do not make new friends
The traditional Indian man tends to be possessive because of which most girls equate marriage with a loss of total independence. Going for vacations with your friends or doing a night out with them or planning a solo travel jig become insanely complicated issues.
2. Get permission to meet your own family
It has become a situation that after marriage you need to get permission from your husband and mother in law to meet your own family (Father, Mother and sister, brother) and stay at their place. When in world did my birth place change to be a place where I should be asked permission to go to???
3. Do all Housework and Office work
Most Indian Men before marriage work at home and cook when they stay alone for work. Once married it is expected for women who are working should do office work and the work at home.
4. Listen to your Mother’s Reminders
Cook this dish for your husband, prepare this for your husband during the weekend, allow your husband to take rest during the weekend, do proper work when you are at your mother in laws’ place and get a good name. Where on earth will working women get rest here? Work at office, work at home, work during weekend and also work when you go to your mother in laws’ place??
5. Lose your personal time
Before marriage all girls have almost the 24 hours for themselves. Spend a lot of time with friends and for your personal interests. After marriage you do not have time to even think about these. Think only about your husband, keeping your in laws happy; work at office and at home. No time for yourself??
6. Follow the process
We Indians are expected to follow a process: Get married, have babies, raise them, pay for their education, take care of their needs, save money for their weddings, get them married, and so on. What if we don’t want babies? It’s our choice, of course, but dealing with nosy relatives who are scandalized by our decision is not an easy task.
7. Do Not allow to lead to a Divorce
Accept whatever happens in your marriage life. Do Not raise your voice against your husband and mother in law (even if they are wrong), else your life will be miserable alone. What if the marriage doesn’t work out? What if love is lost with time? These what-ifs are particularly worrisome for Indian girls because getting a divorce is still a big taboo.
8. Extra Responsibilities
Hundreds of expectations. We have to behave like ideal daughters-in-law and, all of a sudden, Maggi can’t be the only dinners we cook! You are forced to take up Extra responsibilities in order to keep everyone else happy. You have to give up what you are in order to become a “What they like””
9. Give up your career aspirations
The prospect of marriage brings with it a good deal of apprehension because it involves many tough choices that can affect us professionally. Your mother in law does not want you to work after marriage, you would have an ambitious career aspiration, however you are expected to lead a better family life and have kids rather than attaining your career aspiration.
10. Change your name
We have an identity that we don’t really want to change. Mrs Husband’s Surname isn’t as good as how our name sounds at present, and continuing to go by our “maiden name” after getting married is a difficult battle to fight even now.
11. Adapt to the new family whatever it maybe
It’s difficult to suddenly become a part of a new family with new norms and habits, start living with a new set of people and sometimes being forced to make “a show of respect” and build relationships with people we may not like very much.
12. Don’t Expect your husband to do house work
Men can be slobs, True. So can we, but our husbands aren’t expected to clean up our messes like we are expected to clean up theirs.
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